Addison: Part V

You see, spinal cord tumor relapses and radiation necrosis are treated very differently.

In the case of radiation necrosis, you would give a patient oral or IV steroids to decrease inflammation (hopefully decreasing compression around the spinal cord) and give symptomatic support. 

But for tumor relapses, well- the only options are chemotherapy, surgical resection and/or more radiation. 

So for radiation necrosis, you obviously wouldn't re-irradiate. But you wouldn't give steroids for a growing tumor, either. 

It saddened my heart so much that April, knowing that with the information we had, we did not know for sure. Looking back, it still makes me sad that we didn't figure it out. And as more time passed, sadly, Addison lost more and more function. By the end of April, she was completely paralyzed below the waist again and was unable to have anyone touch or move her legs without excruciating pain. She had also lost complete control of all her bowel and bladder faculties. 

Taking care of Addison daily while watching her slowly lose most of the neurologic function below her waist was unlike any experience I have ever had. It was unspeakable, really. I cannot describe how horrible it was- for Addison, for her parents, and for everyone who loved her.  There was such pain in my heart every morning, going in to see her- knowing that something else very real and precious might be gone. And upon arrival, often was.

It was then, the beginning of May, that some of us taking care of Addy began to really argue for tumor relapse. Treating her for necrosis obviously had not worked; at the very least, a few docs argued, we should try to biopsy a piece of the "enhancing" area to get the truth. 

But we were overruled; and a few days later, on Tuesday, I said goodbye to Addison. 

By Saturday I was married and had left on my honeymoon.

Addison: Part IV

Frustrating. It was simply frustrating.

We continued to care for Addison through much of the beginning of April, when her one-sided weakness progressed to an inability to move her right leg. And the pain continued; no matter how many pain killers we added, Addy's pain was refractory to treatment. I don't remember seeing her do much besides grimace and shout irritable words at her parents during much of that month.

And no wonder... an adult in real pain is just as irritable. A three year old is the worst. I felt deeply sorry for Addison's mom and dad during this time. No matter how hard they tried, or what they did, nothing could really make her comfortable. Sometimes, for short periods of time she was able to rest or sleep; but these were just tiny pauses in a very frustrating life for them.

Sadly, as the middle of April approached, Addison began having difficulty with urination and defecation. Ah... this broke my heart. It is almost universally a sign of spinal cord compression, and so yet another MRI was done. Unfortunately, this one continued to show worsening "enhancement."

Now, at that time I had not taken care of very many children with spinal cord tumors. Addison was really the first. However, even I at that point began to get suspicious. It seemed almost irrelevant what some medical scan showed, when we couldn't actually interpret it- wasn't the fact that Addison seemed to be losing neurologic function weekly proof enough that her tumor might be spreading?

Several other doctors agreed; however, the radiation oncologist and the brain tumor doctor both still believed that the cause was post-radiation necrosis. I guess sometimes, there are things we never know for sure...

Even when it might make a huge difference.

Intermission...

Just an intermission for a short update for our friends.

Sitting here typing up Addison's story, I am reminded that it is much more difficult to write these stories almost a year and a half after they occurred. There are so many amazing ongoing stories right now that deserve to be written but I'm torn between finishing a sad story that was touched me so deeply and sharing the amazing epilogue to Lily's story that has happened in the meantime! And all the other stories that are ongoing right now and are so much fresher in my mind....

So I will try to show some restraint and finish Addy before going on. However, teaser: there is more, MUCH more, to Lily's life story that I absolutely cannot wait to put into words! Look for "Lily: The Epilogue"... soon.

I had promised myself I was going to write more this summer. I guess its not so bad to break a promise to yourself, as long as there aren't really any consequences. But one of the reasons was that writing some of these out is so therapeutic for me. These stories happen in real life so much faster than I can write them down, that I rarely have the chance to think on them or really process them very deeply. But these children are so precious, and the stories of their lives so invaluable- they are beyond words. I can't usually sum them up in a few sentences in response to a passing "How is your job going?" Therefore, I am going to start making a real effort to keep up with this, more for myself and the kids than anyone else.

In that light, in the last week, I had the great privilege of taking care of and being involved in the stories of two children who passed from this life. And at church this morning, I just sort of had an epiphany. I have never thought of my job as particularly spiritual. Mostly, in my mind its very logical and scientific; I mean, its medicine. But it really stuck on my heart that part of my job is extremely unique- the part where the science doesn't work, and we don't "win," and I do help children pass on from this life to the next.

And you know, then I thought, what a cool job.

Addison, Part III

Addison was re-admitted in March with pain. That sharp, shooting pain had returned in one of her legs. Uggg... never a good thing. Of course, the first thing we all assumed was that she had relapsed.

But Addison's MRI was not definitive. It didn't have any major new areas of tumor, and just showed a kind of diffuse "enhancement" everywhere. The neuroradiologist told us that could be several different things- relapse, radiation necrosis, infection, etc. 

Addison's doctor, the brain tumor doctor, went with radiation necrosis. This is a process that happens sometime in the window 6-9 months after tumor irradiation when you can start to see some of the normal cells in the radiation field die. This "necrosis" really just means that although the radiation killed the tumor, it took awhile longer, but it also killed parts of Addison's spinal cord.

But, no one could definitively say whether this was really the case. We all just kind of took our best guess.

Pain meds were increased. Addison was discharged and fairly comfortable. 

But in April, she came back to the hospital again. 

This time with one-sided weakness; her right leg was becoming weaker and weaker.

And guess what the MRI showed again?

Enhancement. More enhancement.

Addison, Part II

Addison did well for awhile. Around 6 months, actually. After her tumor re-grew so quickly after the initial resection, she received emergency high dose spinal radiation. That halted the tumor's progress in its tracks. Long enough to get in some chemo.

Addison then received approximately six months of very high dose chemotherapy. She was frequently inpatient in the hospital, receiving some of our most intensive IV therapy. This was a very trying time for Addison's mother; since her daughter's diagnosis and for weeks before, Addison had experienced non-stop, intense nerve pain.

Nerve pain is unlike other kinds of pain in that it is usually sharp, shooting, and often sudden. Not the kind of pain you  would want to have to manage in a three year old.

However, sometime in January (about four months after radiation) Addison's pain had resided, and her neurologic function had improved enough that with aggressive physical therapy and a walker, she was actually able to walk on her own again. Which again was a relief for her mother, who had frequently been carrying around a large three year old.

Amazing, what a kid's spinal cord can do. Seems like adults lose function and never can regain it. (This, in my opinion, is only one of the many things that make children more like amphibians than people.) Really pretty astounding.

Addison then enjoyed a few months of improved function, bowel and urinary continence, and a relatively normal life. She even smiled and talked with me during one of her admissions- the first time that had happened since I'd met her.

In that respect, Addison was fairly normal. Some toddler and preschool aged children do continue to interact normally after a diagnosis of cancer; however, there are definitely an equal or higher number of children that regress. Whether from fear, anger, grief, or an inability to understand and cope with their diagnoses, many children in this age group simply stop talking to anyone other than their families. A few stop talking at all.

Addison had been in the former group; until her condition improved, and she emerged from her shell. It was then I saw the Addison none of us had ever known.

After all, living a pain-free, relatively normal life had been out of her reach for over 4 months. It was a glimmer of hope in a a desert for a devastated family.

A glimmer that vanished just eight weeks later.

Addison, Part I

The first time I met Addison, I have to admit, she freaked me out a little.

And I'm going to be honest with you: if you're looking for something cheery... this is a long story, that doesn't end well. Look elsewhere now for a good old fashioned American ending, because this story is sad. And real, honest-to-goodness non-fiction.

Addison was almost three years old when she was diagnosed with the rarest of the rare- a very rare childhood brain tumor, that- unusually- was growing at the bottom of Addison's spine, instead of in her brain.

The unusual thing about ATRT (atypical teratoid rhaboid tumor), is how aggressive it can be. Addison lost the feeling in her legs first, then her ability to walk within days of diagnosis; one week after her tumor had been completely surgically resected, it had regrown completely, back to its original size.

The other thing about spinal cord tumors, is their destructiveness to a person's functionality. Imagine how many functions depend on the nerves going down and out the bottom of your spinal cord. Leg muscles, sensation, reproductive functionality, bowel and urinary continence. Everything below the waist, really.

And when I saw her for the first time, she was the first toddler I'd ever seen in a wheelchair, paralyzed by her cancer. 

Cancer can be such a bastard.

Our Culture's Unwitting Acceptance of Machine-Controlled Lives

I may be getting a little paranoid lately... but tell me if you think this is true. In our world today, almost everything is controlled by machines. And these machines are feeding us ridiculously large amounts of information daily that influence our thinking, morals, beliefs, and, in some cases, are isolating us from the most important things in life.

In other words, mind-influencing; if you are aware of the messages these machines are feeding you. If you aren't, it might just be mind control.

Thinking I might have gone a little wacko while taking a rather long break from my blog? Well, you'd be wrong. I've been thinking deeply on this subject for all of seventeen minutes this evening, and have come to the following realizations:

People are obsessed with machines in our culture. Absolutely obsessed. Cars, phones, computers, televisions, iPads- you name it, people will do anything to get their hands on it. Machines.

For starters.. what kind of car you drive, our culture says, tells something about the person. Thus the machine you drive has some control over your social status.

And with commutes getting longer and longer as people have to move farther and farther away from the city (to cram their McMansion into some treeless suburb that is a safe distance from the inner city but close to a nice mall), people spend more and more time (alone) inside of their driving machines.

And what do they listen to in these driving machines? Music playing machines or broadcasting machines. Machines broadcasting lyrics and information into our heads.

I have spent a lot of time in airports and on airplanes in my life. And I can tell you that you used to see people talking to each other in airports- finding out where the person in the seat next to you was from and where they were going. The last time I was in an airport (this last May) I had never seen so little social interaction between strangers. Most people are staring into their machines- iPads, iPhones, laptops. Keeping them from having to even make eye contact with a person; omitting even the chance for a friendly smile, much less a conversation.

And what are these machines "telling" the person? Well, if you are on facebook, your machine might be telling you what everyone else in your culture is doing. And therefore leading you toward certain thought lines about what you need to do to fit into your culture.


"Skydiving!"


"Our accomodations for the night {insert picture of Scottish castle}"

The interesting thing is that you have no actual interaction with a person, although you are using a machine to ascertain what people are doing.

Going on... I will skip the 8 hour day staring at machines that most of us have. Because most of the staring into machines at work we do is inputing information, and not necessarily being influenced by it. And a given work day may include a lot of social interaction.

However, when the average person comes home from work, what do they do?

Turn on their staring machine. The big machine on the wall they stare at and soak up advertisements and cultural messages in the form of reality TV shows or sitcoms showing what "everyone" in the culture is doing. These TV people are flawless and have perfect houses... hard to live up to in real life. And these are machine people; they are not real, they don't exist. And they are not interacting with you.

That's the sad part about machines; they can be so isolating. Most people commute in their car alone. You can't find out someone's hopes and dreams by watching TV with them. You can't meet friends from other countries in an airport by playing Angry Birds for an hour.

So, after most of us are done being influenced by our brainless home machines for an hour or three after work, what do we do then?

Get on our small handheld or desktop machine again to check our electronic machine mail or facebook again to see if anyone sent us a message with absolutely no human element of interaction. Because only our grandparents handwrite letters anymore.

The real kicker for me tonight was when I was watching my house's machine on the wall and saw an iPhone commercial. Some actor whose name I can't remember but whose face I recognized was sitting in a beautiful apartment, dressed in an expensive suit, utterly alone. And this man was having a conversation and entertaining himself solely with Siri, the robot on his iPhone machine. She tells him a joke and the commercial ends with him chuckling as if he is interacting in some normal, human way.

And it just hit me... what an empty, horrible life. To have everything you need materially and to have access to all this "information" but to have such a poverty of real humanity. Like handing your wife a hand picked wildflower on the side of a lake with the wind on your face as you watch the smile in her eyes when she smells it.

Now don't get me wrong... most people's experience with Siri more likely includes "Sorry, I don't understand" in that robotic voice. But the way I interpreted that commercial's message was: Information-feeding machines can provide everything you need.

Sure... maybe the machine can give me directions to the lake to an enable an experience I might otherwise not have had. In those cases they are useful; when you control them.

But when the majority of "information" these machines are feeding me is so unrealistic (i.e., perfect houses, perfect bodies, flawless faces, exciting adventures, fantastic vacations) how else can I interpret it but that these machines are evil and give people unrealistic expectations of themselves and their culture?

FURTHER, (sorry getting on some kind of tangent now), machines may be productive (work, email, etc) but.... really. Farmville? Facebook? Desperate Housewives? These machines are sucking away hours of our time with no results, nothing done. AHHHH! Its so evil!

Having started a garden this year, I have a very small concept of the kind of hard work people used to do (and in some parts of the world, still do) to survive. It was not only outside in the sunshine- in nature; it was often collective, and most importantly it was productive. How awesome, to see that the tiny seeds you planted months ago have now yielded a tangible harvest that engages your senses- smells good, tastes good! One that you can enjoy with your family, that you can feast on together to fill one of your most basic needs. But our culture has lost a lot of that now.

Count me out. I hope to never own an iPhone or be addicted to the machine on my wall or in my hand.

The real question is, are you controlling yourself and your own mind? Or are machines controlling you?

Back from Hiatus...

Hello again! My nine loyal friends who read this blog. ;) And to clarify, that was in the past tense.

Back, indeed- after a long hiatus, is more like it.

I'll skip everything in between and put it simply.

I'm going to start writing again.

Lull

So.... long lull lately, eh?

Sorry for the sudden drop off in the middle of the 'Procedures' stories... things with the wedding got busy 'round about that time. And by busy I mean, the house is a mess, most of regular life is on hold, and I am trying to survive through buying a house, planning a wedding, and working full time. Its been a little crazy.

On the other hand, there are some stories happening concurrently that I absolutely cannot wait to share with you. Some amazing things happening recently at the Children's Hospital- definitely story worthy.

Just wanted to give a heads up that I am putting a formal hold on blogging until we are back from the honeymoon... which will be May 23rd.

Doubt we will be blogging much on May 24th either. But you know, sometime about then I'll pick back up.

Cheers and love to all!

The Procedure, Part II

Every hollow tube, from a shotgun to a needle, has a gauge.

For those familiar with shotguns, its a bore diameter. The smaller the number, actually, the larger the hole. So a 22 gauge shotgun has a much smaller bore diameter, or hole, than a 12 gauge shotgun.

Same with a needle.

*Intermission for funny story from the ER*

To start an IV, nurses usually use a 24 gauge needle or smaller. Unlike drawing blood, which is bearable, having an IV started is painful. I know because we had to practice on each other in PA school.

So there was this nurse I knew at OU Presby's ER, who, if she ran into a teenager that had done something especially stupid; and was simultaneously disrespecting their parents; or the nursing staff; and then needed intravenous medication to be rescued-

Would always use an 18 gauge needle to start their IV.

"Don't be nobody in their right mind do something like that to their own mother," she would mutter as she searched for the big needle.

The pain from a 24 gauge needle to start an IV is significant. An 18 is torture.

*Back to the real story*

My needles for spinal taps are anywhere from one to three and a half inches long. Their gauge isn't too bad- usually about a 20.

But a bone marrow biopsy needle is an 8. And, its five inches long.

The Procedure, Part I

First thing most mornings, I grab a surgical consent form and a black magic marker.

The consent is usually for either a lumbar puncture (spinal tap), or a bone marrow biopsy. After all, we look in places where cancer hides. This can either be the spongy inner part of the hip bone where immature blood cells are made, or in a person's cerebral spinal fluid.

Hence, the Procedures.

The black magic marker is for marking. Marking exactly where on a child the numbing cream will go.

The consent... well that part's obvious.

It is in a procedure that I see how vastly different all children are. Some kids are so nervous they can barely sleep, up at 6 a.m. worrying about it. Some kids are just mad that they can't eat breakfast. Some kids want to know every time they are getting one. Some don't want to know at all. Some watch movies or read Where's Waldo? just prior to theirs. Some sob, some scream if the parents even think about laying them on the table. And some, some are silly right up to moment they fall asleep, laughing and joking about the funny dream they are about to have.

And then there's the rare child, that nothing, and I mean nothing, can get down. One such 4 year old child, laughing with a huge smile on her face (simultaneously the sickest girl in the hospital) once told our Child Life rep, Kristin:

When is my procedure?? I CAN'T WAIT FOR MY PROCEDURE!!

This is the same child I often see down on all fours, jumping up and down, excitedly barking like a dog.

And so you can clearly see why I prefer children over adults.

When we get to the procedure room, there are several things in hand. Toys in the Child Life person's hands. Syringes full of medicines and chemotherapy in the nurse's hands.

The child in the parent's hands.

And the sterile tray, sterile gloves, and big needle in my hands.

Thoughts

Its a little interesting, how Blogger these days allows you to see the "stats" of your blog following. For example, I can see that there are a lot of people reading this blog, but very few commenting. 

I'm really interested in this disparity. Thoughts?

Also, it was very different writing out Arden's story than Lily's. As the end approached it was a little more distressing to know that eventually, it was going to be a tragedy. It was heartbreaking to finally write out her end; and has taken me a little time to think through, in the future, how I am going to continue sharing those stories that end so tragically. It may be that snapshots throughout different parts children's lives are shared instead of their entire stories. I'm going to do a little more thinking on this.

Next up: The Procedure.

Arden: The End

Completely ignorant that any of this had come to pass, Larry and I drove home on Sunday afternoon, discussing wedding plans. We'd never talked about when we would get married, or where~ we actually had never seriously discussed it at all. (Not beyond jokingly mentioning stopping by the courthouse to see if the judge was in, anyway.)

Imagine my surprise, when I walked into the hospital Monday morning and found out that Arden had died. 

Last I'd seen her, she'd looked great, and was headed home just fine. I didn't even know she had been admitted to the hospital. 

My heart really grieved for Arden.

Despite the sadness in all of our hearts, there had to be joy too- everyone wanted to hear the engagement story and see the ring; wanted to laugh and be excited and celebrate. I wanted to, too~ but I also wanted to mourn our sweet little girl. 

It worked out, that Larry and I decided that we wanted to go to Quartz Mountain that week to see the wedding venue; and Arden's funeral was Thursday. We decided to make it a round trip.

Arden was special. 

Arden's family was special, too. On the front of her funeral program, underneath a picture of her big smiling face, they printed Psalm 45:4: 

In your majesty, ride out

to victory, defending truth, 

humility, and justice. 

Go forth to perform

awe-inspiring deeds!

Arden's real name literally means paradise star. According to her obituary, she lived up to her name flawlessly. She loved to be the center of attention. 

And from her funeral, it is obvious that her parents deeply believe she is now garnering much attention as a beautiful star in true paradise, in the arms of her Maker, whom they love.

I've thought of that verse many times; it was so appropriate, but still kind of hard to put your finger on exactly why. I think its because keeping faith in God's utter goodness, when your child dies, is probably life's most awe-inspiring deed. And for a one year old to fight life and death battles is awe-inspiring, as well. Knowing that cancer and evil killed her, but that Christ loved her and one day will return, riding out to defend innocent children like her, in truth, humility and justice~ 

That is ultimate faith.  

You have it or you don't.

Something inside me wants to cry but knows that verse is true when I think about this child's immortal life. She might have lost her battle with cancer but the grave cannot keep her! She has already triumphed over death. 

To Arden, who fought so bravely: All hail the victorious dead!

Arden: Part VIII

On Christmas Day, Arden's blood pressure began falling. Despite fluid boluses, her pressure could not be maintained at a safe level and the ICU doctors were called. They came to our floor and looked at Arden, and agreed that she probably needed to come to their floor for medicine drips to increase her blood pressure. 

Arden's parents were not fond of this idea; they had seen what she looked like the first time she went to the ICU. Compared to then, when their daughter had been on the brink of death, she probably did appear much better. But despite how far she had come in just a few months, Arden was still infected and ill; so to the ICU she went. 

Medicine drips were started: vasopressors. 'Pressors (as they're called), maintain a high enough blood pressure to ensure that all organs are perfused when a patient is too sick to maintain a normal pressure on their own. These medicine drips, plus antiobiotics, keep modern people alive who otherwise would have died of sepsis in days past. 

Praise the Lord for modern medicine. 

Arden had a shaky time, but survived Christmas. The next morning, she was sent down to radiology for a CT scan to look for abcesses or other sources of her sepsis/low pressure. 

When she came back up to the ICU, her heart stopped beating. 

Arden's parents were in the room while the ICU doctors began coding their daughter. Chest compressions, bag valve mask breathing, epinephrine administration- finally they brought Arden back. Her heart beat returned after about thirty minutes of CPR. 

But this child was on a precipice. Despite going back up on all her medicine drips, the infection was overwhelming. Arden's heart stopped beating over and over that afternoon, and she was coded for hours before her parents finally asked to let her go. 

She died on Sunday afternoon, December 26th. 

Arden: Part VII

While we were merrymaking, rejoicing in our engagement, another story entirely was unfolding at the hospital. 

Arden had been readmitted just before Christmas to the heme/onc floor for fever and a low white blood cell count- known in our world as 'fever/neutropenia.' As she couldn't fight the infection by herself after the latest round of chemo, she was being given big gun IV antibiotics and fluid support. 

To Arden's parents, or any of our parents that have been around the block a few times, fever/neutropenia is a fairly routine hospital admission. Stay in for awhile, get some antibiotics, start feeling better, bada-bing, home in a few days. Almost a fourth of the kids on our floor, at any given time, are probably in for fever/neutropenia. Some kids get it routinely in between chemotherapy administrations. Some kids never get admitted for it. I wish I knew why. 

A routine admission~ except when a child gets septic.

Sepsis happens when a patient's bloodstream is overwhelmed by bacteria. The patient can get extreme fever, shaking chills, lightheadedness or confusion, a rapid heart beat to attempt to increase their blood pressure, hyperventilation to compensate for a change in their blood pH, and other symptoms. 

Sepsis is a bad deal. Fortunately, it can usually be overcome with quick administration of large amounts of fluid, and antibiotics. 

But not always. 

Arden: Part VI

Just before Christmas dinner, Larry prayed this prayer:

"Thank you Lord, for those gathered here today. We especially thank you for your Son and his birth. Mostly we thank you for His life."

He paused, and took a deep breath. 

"And I also thank you for this beautiful woman that I want to make my wife."

My eyes, along with several other eyes at the table, popped open. I looked over at him and saw that he was smiling this mischievous little smile. Then he slowly stood up from the table and I froze.

"Erin, I love you and I want to make you my wife," he said.

I continued staring at him incredulously, trapped in a complete state of shock. 

Then this wonderful man, that I have been completely in love with for the last two years, got down on one knee and pulled a handkerchief out of his pocket; one that had belonged to his father. Out of the handkerchief, he pulled a ring. 

Then he asked me to marry him. 

Arden: Part V

Arden did well over the next few months. She continued to received chemotherapy, and also underwent a stem cell harvest. Because neuroblastoma is also a very aggressive cancer, high dose chemotherapy is required to kill it. But it also kills the patient's bone marrow- and so early on, the patient's own marrow is harvested and saved in preparation for their own future "auto" transplant. Arden underwent all these procedures and rounds of chemo without a hitch. 

In the interim, I was on vacation; first to Iowa, to take my future fiance to meet my grandparents for the very first time. That was over Thanksgiving. During which we had a wonderful time.

I came home and went back to work, then saw Arden for the first time in almost eight weeks, as much of her therapy had been outpatient. I still remember how much she surprised me. Arden looked great. No more sickly, fresh-from-the-ICU baby; she now was actually kind of normal looking. It was a great feeling... feeling that I had helped bring her back.

Shortly after seeing Arden, I left again for a week long Christmas vacation to Poteau, Larry's hometown. We planned to spend the entire week lazing about, watching movies and spending time with family. Which we did and thoroughly enjoyed.

On Christmas morning, I woke up and thanked the Lord for his goodness to me. It was hard to believe that just one short year after the worst three years of my life were finally over (read: PA SCHOOL), I now had a loving boyfriend and wonderful family, a fantastic job full of children I adored, a beautiful apartment, good friends, a great church, and actual free time; everything my heart could have ever desired. 

Christmas is such a beautiful day, when you have the ones you love with you. 

Looking back, I wish I would have said a Christmas morning prayer for Arden, too. 

Arden: Part IV

In all the time that I've been taking care of Arden, I have never gotten to hold her. 

You see, when Arden was diagnosed in the ICU, we hadn't had time to get a lot of the necessary scans we would normally have obtained before starting therapy. However, she did get one scan- a CT scan. Which showed, in essence, that the neuroblastoma had spread all over her body; bony metastases were everywhere. She had so many of these that multiple bones had weakened, and consequently fractured. 

Scattered bony fractures across her entire body... ouch. This meant Arden was on a constant, slow-release pain medicine patch and, that everyone- all of us- were basically afraid to move her. The nurses were too scared to scrub her with bedside baths. We examined her with light touch and extreme care. Even her parents kept her in her bed most of the time for fear of hurting her.  

But honestly, our girl didn't seem to mind. Later I would find out that she was a free spirit who had never liked to be snuggled. 

I like that kind of good, old fashioned independence in a woman. 

Slowly but surely, Arden began getting better. In the weeks that followed her stay in the ICU, Arden's breathing continued to improve, her blood salts improved, and she began sitting up and interacting again. 

I still remember the first time I ever saw her out of bed; she was being pulled around the tenth floor in a bright red wagon. She was still on oxygen but she was sitting straight up, taking in all the sights around her. It was a little hard to believe that she was doing so well, after her narrow escape. 

And just before we discharged her from the hospital, she even gave me a little smile. 

I think she knew I was on her side. 

Arden: Part III

She lived. 

After more than a week in the ICU and five straight days of chemotherapy, Arden's tumor began dying, shrinking back from her chest, giving her enough room to breath. She was extubated and after another week or so in the ICU, came back to us on the oncology floor to recover. 

From the first time I saw her awake, Arden looked scared. Previously I'd only seen her sedated in the OR and intubated in the ICU, her eyes shut. But now she seemed to stare at us with wide, scared eyes that screamed to me Post Traumatic Stress Disorder! And no wonder- in the few short weeks that preceded her arrival back to our floor, she had almost died twice and been through major trauma. 

Post-traumatic stress disorder manifests itself in various ways in our patients; for Arden, I felt the eyes said it all. An open window to her soul, they seemed to plead with quiet determination.

She asked me with those eyes every time I saw her. I never knew what to say. 

Arden: Part II

It was Dr. Cain who saved Arden's life that day. 

After her close call in surgery, Arden was sent to the pediatric ICU in critical condition. Her tumor was now so big that it filled her entire abdomen and was starting to push into her chest, so much that she couldn't even expand her own lungs to breath.  She was intubated and placed on a breathing machine, and Dr. Cain made a quick decision on the chemotherapy protocol she would follow. 

I remember clearly, writing the chemotherapy orders to start at noon that day. We wanted Arden to be hydrated with fluids for several hours and then get chemo as soon as possible in the hope that it would start shrinking the tumor enough for her to breath again. Hopefully before even a machine wouldn't be able to expand her lungs.

However, probably because they are used to so many different kinds of patients-the ICU nurses never started Arden's chemotherapy. They apparently thought her other medicines and drips were more important and continued trying to give her what they thought was the priority. I still remember walking down to the ICU at 3:30pm to check on her and finding out that nothing, nothing had been started. Not even her pre-hydration fluids. 

It was devastating; and she was getting worse. I immediately called Dr. Cain and filled her in. "Oh, my God. That is unacceptable. I'll be right down." She promptly arrived in the unit and both of us pretty much accosted the nurse who was taking care of Arden. It was a huge mistake, and it truly could have cost this girl her life. 

When babies get really sick, they can crash fast. Chemotherapy was the only thing that was going to save her.

After all, Arden was only 18 months old.